tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post8324633850938774526..comments2023-09-26T05:05:30.381-04:00Comments on soulbrother v.2: When something like this happens, you must ask yourself, "Where were the adults?"Max Reddickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09360630810931410487noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-80183724278213850812009-10-30T11:29:40.000-04:002009-10-30T11:29:40.000-04:00I am in agreement with so many people on this topi...I am in agreement with so many people on this topic all I can do is SMH, but at the same I think back to one month ago and my 17 year old female cousin told me <b> at her high school a girl was caught performing oral sex on 3 high school boys.</b> I was told that as the girl was picked up by her mother the entire school went outside pointed and laughed!<b> She is now in a mental instituition.</b><br /><br />We live in such an oversexualized culture right now, especially children of color and there is no value put on the female body other than as a sexual object. So I am sad to say but it does not suprise me at all when I hear a 15 year old was raped by a group of boys <b> (this is called a gang bang)</b> which is very popular in inner cities and that there were a group of other people watching. That whole scene almost sounds like a live action porno movie acted out.<br /><br />Where is the community? Still living in the boys will be boys, hypermasculine way of thinking. If we don't start raising our sons, nephews, cousins etc and telling them that you treat a woman as if she is your sister, aunt or grandmother than we are continue to have these isssues.Charles Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-10765143388211251802009-10-29T14:49:30.837-04:002009-10-29T14:49:30.837-04:00These are the ones who most constitute a direct th...<i>These are the ones who most constitute a direct threat to your own. These are the ones in which the mob mentality is a constant state of mind. And where are you in all this?</i><br /><br />Fair enough question. I am past the point of thinking that I have any direct sway over some of the youth who (I assume) were responsible for this and similar actions. I used to teach in Head Start classrooms. When I hear of stories like this I think, "That could have been one of my Head Start kids..." <br /><br />Each one of them lived very challenging lives but they had one other thing in common: they were all 3-5 years old. They were young, babies. They were seen as still having potential to turn out well. I had high hopes for them and supplemented our meager little budget with my own meager little salary to make sure they Had.<br /><br />But honestly, I have not made the same commitment to these kids' almost-grown counterparts. There are youth who I look at now and cannot see that 3-year old inside. That is as much a reflection on me as it is anything else. But whatever the cause it contributes to me joining in my own "mob mentality" that many of us, were we honest, fall prey to--where we lament and shake our heads, but otherwise feel helpless.<br /><br />So that's where *I* am on this. Watching and SMH like lots of folks....PPR_Scribehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11595767225403599855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-65328446156661033672009-10-29T14:41:00.817-04:002009-10-29T14:41:00.817-04:00Slightly off topic: We really need to change the w...Slightly off topic: We really need to change the way sexual assaults are reported:<br /><br /><br /><i>The victim, a student, remained hospitalized Monday with injuries that <b>were not life-threatening</b>.<br /><br />"She was raped, beaten, robbed and dehumanized...</i>PPR_Scribehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11595767225403599855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-76951926210708877212009-10-29T12:16:15.889-04:002009-10-29T12:16:15.889-04:00Hi there!
I saw the news report about this yester...Hi there!<br /><br />I saw the news report about this yesterday and I am not sure that I am shocked because I see such inhumanity and moral depravity in our society at younger and younger ages...<br /><br />I just don't understand one piece of the story... the mob who watched it happen doesn't surprise me...<br /><br />On the news, the reporter stated that the girl went outside to wait for her father to pick her up. Ok. If the area is dangerous, <b>WHY</b> didn't her parents tell her to stay inside? If her father showed up at the appointed time, why didn't he call police when he arrived to pick her up and couldn't find her?<br /><br />I realize I am asking questions that take away from the main point you are making though.<br /><br />Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!<br />LisaLISA VAZQUEZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13583559303233985031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-64548187515066689552009-10-29T12:08:26.212-04:002009-10-29T12:08:26.212-04:00I wrote about the rape at my primary personal blog...I wrote about the rape at my primary personal blog, <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Whose Shoes are These Anyway</a> and mentioned "Genovese Syndrome," but that aside I've been meditating on increasing youth violence at my side blog, <a href="http://urbanpsalms.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">The Urban Mother's Book of Prayers</a> off and on for a year. I should probably start giving that blog more attention if for no other reason than to do a personal spiritual dissection of what's going on with us and our young people.<br /><br />I appreciate the thoughtful attention you've given to this topic. It's a difficult subject to cover, both the rape and the crowd that watched, laughed, and took pictures.<br /><br />Thank you, Max.Vérité Parlant https://www.blogger.com/profile/09033679321805951686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-84532748741249589602009-10-29T11:40:50.045-04:002009-10-29T11:40:50.045-04:00This story really makes me sick and angry. All th...This story really makes me sick and angry. All the people involved in this are monsters. Not such the creeps who brutally raped her either, but the people who looked on, cheered them, you name it. Somebody should have done something. <br /><br />I do notice that many adults today don't supervise their children. I work at night. Where I'm at, I will constantly see teenagers of all ages and even kids younger than that out of the street all by themselves. I often wonder where the parents are and why they aren't keeping up with their kids.Keithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14832710800680256206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-68487252105544359552009-10-28T22:32:17.913-04:002009-10-28T22:32:17.913-04:00I just got finished with a post about fear. How do...I just got finished with a post about fear. How does one not lose their mind in this world with all these things going on? That girl probably looked at some of those boys before in the hallway, had a class with them, may have even talked to them at one time yet this happened. It's scary.RainaHavockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02019099371458545624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-59817837422432050532009-10-28T22:21:13.467-04:002009-10-28T22:21:13.467-04:00This is horrifying. I hurts me to think of my girl...This is horrifying. I hurts me to think of my girls going through something like this.curlykidzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12618132333120542540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-1681516284861984082009-10-28T22:06:00.778-04:002009-10-28T22:06:00.778-04:00@ Renee
Keep in mind they buried a six year old ...@ Renee <br /><br />Keep in mind they buried a six year old girl here today who went missing then was found dead. I was a nervous wreck from that and then this. I remember reading somewhere that a war had been declared on our daughters. But you have brought up a question for exploration--When will our daughters be able to feel safe?Max Reddickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09360630810931410487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-38520069752341558872009-10-28T22:01:17.111-04:002009-10-28T22:01:17.111-04:00@Kristen
The whole lack of compassion is indeed f...@Kristen<br /><br />The whole lack of compassion is indeed frightening. Younger and younger children are committing ever more atrocious acts, and I truly don't believe they even ever get the complete gravity of their acts.<br /><br />@rhythm<br /><br />I, like you, was completely speechless. I cannot imagine what that young lady must have went through, what she must have felt. And every time I think of her, I think of my own daughters and get that much more upset.<br /><br />@Kim<br /><br />I am with you on the pious outrage. Derrion Albert has all but fallen out of the news now. We seem to have forgotten and moved on. But stories like this are appearing more and more frequently. At some point, we are going to have to confront this head on and come up with some real solutions.<br /><br />@Renee<br /><br />I have two daughters, and I worry about them to no end. I only feel realized when they are finally home under my roof.Max Reddickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09360630810931410487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-70351423397414632692009-10-28T20:02:52.038-04:002009-10-28T20:02:52.038-04:00I have not been able to write about this despite n...I have not been able to write about this despite numerous requests from my readers. I find this crime so heinous as to shock an pretense I have about sensibility. I have always known that women are a vulnerable class within society, but this just completely shatters me. This is what the rape apologism that we have normalized leads to. This is what happens when we teach boys that they have the right to control and abuse women. We may not do so overtly but each time we excuse small incidents with the phrase "boys will be boys," we only encourage escalations. Will there ever be a time when women will be safe? Will there ever be a time when possessing a vagina does not make one a ready target?Reneehttp://www.womanist-musings.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-73002743288574473172009-10-28T17:14:44.763-04:002009-10-28T17:14:44.763-04:00This story is both sick and sad. It's one thin...This story is both sick and sad. It's one thing to happen upon a crime and be to frightened to get involved, walk away but atleast call the cops, but to not do anything and watch for entertainment purpose and perhaps join in says alot about our society and how seriously we take the crime of rape. Now what will this poor girl have to deal with next-- another assault because for sure she will be accused of being party to a crime against herself for drinking.. Now watch as we all feign pious outrage and that will be all.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05636868625682368042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-46479839839912797592009-10-28T16:32:34.394-04:002009-10-28T16:32:34.394-04:00i was just about to post on this when i saw yours....i was just about to post on this when i saw yours. i was almost brought to tears at my desk at work. i'm truly at a loss.<br /><br />and i don't even know what to post on my own blog because at the moment, i'm still stunned.rhythmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16261825267877747228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3023640958277221986.post-54031526137463356592009-10-28T13:43:44.885-04:002009-10-28T13:43:44.885-04:00Wow. What a tragic and disgusting story. It lite...Wow. What a tragic and disgusting story. It literally turns my stomach to think of the corporate acceptance of rape amongst these boys. It reminds me of the importance of supervising my kids, yes. But I also think all of this starts at a much earlier age, when we teach our kids about empathy and character and integrity. This is something that these boys are clearly lacking, and a lack of compassion seems to be a growing virus. It's frightening.Kristen Howertonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11055131545156196477noreply@blogger.com