A Thank You Note to My Father and Black Men Everywhere [Guest post by Charles J.]

I received this post from my good friend Charles J. last week. This post is responsible for me reconsidering my point of view and taking the time to [re]find and refine my voice. Sometimes even an old, stubborn man can learn from a young, wise man.

Before I sat down and began to write, I wasn’t sure what to write about. I was going to write about how black men need to step up and be fathers to their children. I was going to talk about the numbers of brothers in jail. I even started along these lines, but before long I bored myself and felt as though I was sounding redundant.

Then I thought about my own childhood. I grew up in a two parent household. My father was there for me and still is here for me now, so instead of writing and downing more black men ala Bill Cosby. I just wanted to say thank you to my father and to the other Black fathers (biological or otherwise).

Too often we hear there are no more good Black men out there, but I disagree. I feel too often we tend to extend our appreciation to those who have been indispensible to us throughout our lives only when they are dead instead of giving them their accolades while still here on earth. So here goes…

First I would like to begin with my own father. Thank you, Dad, for loving me and allowing me to make mistakes. Thank you for trying to teach me how to throw a ball even though I never got really good at it. Thank you for enrolling me in acting classes at the age of ten when you saw that I preferred music and arts better than a bat and ball. Many fathers would have been disappointed at my preference, but you were not. Thank you for being a living example of how to treat my future wife by treating my mother with the utmost love and respect.

When I needed you, you were there. When I cried, you dried my tears and calmed my fears. You taught me manhood is not about what’s between my legs but what’s between my ears. Because of you I walk taller and work harder. You don’t think you hear this enough.

And this message is also for every good black man out there who is doing it right. It seems we hear most often about those who are not acting as men. We hear about those who have selfishly shrugged off their responsibilities. But as a son, nephew, cousin and mentee of many good black men, thank you all for just being you. Keep up the good work.

Charles J

Black Fatherhood: Reconnecting with Our Legacy

Black Fatherhood: Reconnecting With Our Legacy

How was your Father’s Day? Hope it was as good as mine. I was blessed to enjoy good food, good company, excellent conversation, and good liquor. Father’s Day is one of those holidays on which I get to drink the good stuff. Strictly top shelf. None of that whatever’s on sale for me.

Anyway, as your day winds down, take a look at this promotional clip for the upcoming documentary Black Fatherhood: Reconnecting with Our Legacy based on the book by the same title written by Dana Ross. While most documentaries focus on the deficits of Black men, Black Fatherhood explores Black manhood and fatherhood from a more positive perspective.

Beginning with a exploration of the historical legacy and roles of Black fathers, the documentary seeks to dispel the many myths of Black fathers as wholly non-existent and/or dysfunctional. It also enters into a discussion of the many circumstances and impediments to Black families and Black fathers wrought through government institutions and policies.

This one is a must see. So loosen your belt and take a look see.